Like, even from people that are fucking awesome about everything else.
It never seems to cross peoples minds to be inclusive towards trans women.
It never seems to cross peoples minds to acknowledge trans…
The sad part is that it doesn’t matter how many of us die as long as our allies think intersectionality is optional.
Not zir parents. Not zir sibling.
An autistic person.
For some reason, relatives of autistic people disproportionately see themselves as knowing better what their relative needs and desires than ze does zirself.
And, hell, this happens other ways too. “I know an African…
You are the type of parent the original poster is talking about. Your son is capable of having valid opinions and experiences on groups and people who help him live a fufilling and respected life verses those who patranize and speak over him.
And the most loving thing a parent can do for an autistic child is teach them to voice their opinion and share their experinces, because that’s the only way you can give them a full life.
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My priorties are different from yours, and I reserve the right to ignore anyone who doesn’t respect this.
So there was an outbreak of ableism in some social justice tumblrs I follow, and the hate is still flowing. So I’ve started my usual big minority on little minority fight damage control:
You’re looking for an education.
You see a funeral in one corner and a computer with google in the other.
Do you:
A) Go to the funeral and ask for your education of the obviously upset grieving people?
B) Get thee to google and handle your own damn business?
You see a group of mourners in one courner and a bunch of different oppions on weither or not you can mourn in the other.
Do you:
A)ask the mourners if it’s ok for you to join them.
B)listen to different opinons until you panic and give up.
Wait, there is nothing wrong with the statement “die cis scum”.
While its main use is to vent through healthy anger, one of the few coping systems trans people and many other minority groups have left, its end goal is as a rallying call. Because by expressing and uniting their anger trans people gain a voice that they would otherwise not have, a voice that they can use to educate cis people on what they are doing and allowing to be done to trans people, why that’s wrong, and how to change that.
So the next time you come across “die cis scum”:
Cis people: we don’t hate you, but we do wish you would learn how to be supportive friends through reasonable questions and self research.
Trans people: it’s ok to be angry, you’re not alone, and we can eventully change the situation.
Scum: hurry up and die.
1. When you feel like you want to cut, take a marker, pen, or sharpies and draw a butterfly on your arm or hand.
2. Name the butterfly after a loved one, or someone that really wants you to get better.
3. You must let the butterfly fade…
This and so much more needs to be taught in every self-help circle. I mean a simple your millage may varry disclaimer would turn this pile of quick fix bull into decent advice for people with certain mild self-harm urges.
But for groups and causes to make use of such disclaimers they would have to embrace their limits, weaknesses, and failures.
edit
I want to agree with people saying we need to make our own alternatives as a community, so here’s mine: double wraping two bands (leaves a nice thick red band and a slow buildup of pain), mix bag of thumbtacks color coded to a list of stressers (provides order, easy to steralize, and easy to cleanup).
lauren simkin berke
is it bad that I can name most of these?
The more you can name the smarter/happier your vagina is.
One thing myself and many others have noticed about the religious right’s arguments against same-sex marriage is that they’re the same arguments proponents of interracial marriage used 50-60 years ago.
Don’t believe me? Take a look at this (warning pdf).
http://www.equalitygiving.org/files/Marriage-Equality-Same-Sex-Lesbian-Gay-Marriage/Arguments_Against_Interracial_Marriage_and_Equal_Marriage.pdf
Here’s a few of the most damning quotes:
Same-sex relationships are “unnatural” and “unhealthy.”
(Source: Vermont House and Senate Judiciary Committee Public Hearings, 1/25/00, 2/1/00)
vs
“The amalgamation of the races is not only unnatural, but is always productive of deplorable results. The purity of the public morals, the moral and physical development of both races, and the highest advancement of civilization … all require that [the races] should be kept distinctly separate, and that connections and alliances so unnatural should be prohibited by positive law and subject to no evasion.”
(Source: Dissenting California Supreme Court Justice objecting to that Court’s decision striking down a state law ban on interracial marriage in Perez_v. Lippold, 198 P.2d 17, 41 (1948), (Shenk, J. dissenting)
Same-sex couples cannot biologically conceive children together, and therefore can’t satisfy the goals of marriage.
(Source: Vermont House and Senate Judiciary Committee Public Hearings, 1/25/00, 2/1/00)
vs
“When people of the same race marry, they cannot possibly have any progeny, … and such a fact sufficiently justifies those laws which forbid their marriages.”
(Source: A judge in a Missouri case, quoted in Eric Zorn, Chicago Tribune, May 19,1996)
So next time a friend or family member asks what the big deal is after listening to someone vomit hate, tell them to replace same-sex with interracial and they’ll get it. Hell why stop there, next time someone defends saying “that’s so gay” tell them to replace gay with black and end two fountains of hate with one move.
We are not hippies, junkies, commies, crazy, or lazy. We are average people brought together because we need the world to see that it is not well.
We need the world to see that wealth, power, and resources are not fairly distributed because Reaganomics have failed, the only thing trickling down is the price of greed and the stench of tyranny.
We need the world to see the people dying from preventable illnesses and poverty. We need people to see their neighbors and family dying from classism and apathy. Because we live in a world where not all lives are considered worthy of life, where the rich get richer and the poor just die, where hard working people starve, where bad things happen to good people, and where no one cares as long as it’s not them in the cardboard box or hospital waiting room.
